WDAWTFM: Why Doesn’t Anybody Want to Fuck Me?: A Pilgrimage

He printed the most honest sentence he had — forty-seven pages beginning with a question nobody says out loud — and carried it onto a 2 a.m. Greyhound bound three thousand miles west.

Why Doesn't Anybody Want to Fuck Me? is the field recording of that pilgrimage: one man, a stuffed rabbit named Percival, a thirty-dollar microphone, and a question that turns out to be about something far larger than sex.

Across forty-eight hours and half a continent, he meets the people the algorithm sorted to the bottom:

a man fresh out of prison who needs to know if he still registers an aging survivor of New York's vanished gay nightlife, mourning rooms that no longer exist a closeted church musician setting down a weight he's carried for forty years a meth survivor learning to say I deserve good things — without laughing and a stranger who simply puts his earbud back in, and teaches him the hardest lesson of the trip And surfacing between the miles: the men who made him, the loves he mishandled, the history no app can see.

Part queer memoir, part road movie, part spiritual investigation — a book about the difference between being viewed and being seen .

The apps sold us desire. What we needed was witness.